Confession: I was a bad friend

Confession: I was a bad friend

I can honestly say that I haven’t always been the best friend I could be. I have always, prior to Jesus, felt that friends are dispensable. This is not something I am happy to admit. I just never really thought much about other peoples feelings and I went through friends like cheap high heels. As an adult, I found friendships easy but I think most people I befriended approached the relationship in a similar manner. I never really knew what it meant to be a good friend, much less how to choose one.

First of all, it is important to note that our inner attitudes affect how we treat other people. For much of my life, I was self serving and rebellious. If I had such a bad attitude in my approach to life, you can imagine the attitude I had in my approach to people. Growing up I did’nt know Jesus, and I knew very little about God. The problem is that I did not do well with rules, infact, I was taught that rules were meant to be broken. So, I had terrible inner attitudes towards life, which led to wrong thoughts, words, and eventually actions. Having these negative inner attitudes lead me to gravitate towards people with similar attitudes. God would eventually break me of this frame of mind but I chose the hard way in many lessons in life.

Having the Holy Spirit lead my life has helped me to better see my self and see the issues that needed to be resolved. I have been able to change my inner attitudes and get external results. Realizing I have rebellious tendencies was easy, I was proud of that fact; But having to change the way I viewed my tendencies and realize they are actually working against me was much harder. I have come along way, lol, and I would say that obviously I am a better friend now than I was. I am super loyal and I will always be there for my friends! I don’t look at people as dispensable any more and I have learned to (gulp) swallow my pride and say, “I’m sorry”.

Now, many of the friendships I tossed out like last weeks trash were exactly that, trash friendships with people who had the same self serving attitudes I did. But there were a few that weren’t, I cringe thinking about them to this day. Not all of my friendships ended terribly, I have some wonderful friends who have been in my life for years. We have been able to grow together and separately but still remain close friends and I am truly grateful for these ladies! We have stood by each other through many storms, we have cheered each other on and we have had to sometimes offer each other some tough love and all this has done was make our friendships stronger. Still, some friendships I cherished and nurtured fizzled out and that is OK, that happens with friends sometimes. We are always growing and changing and sometimes we outgrow people or we grow separately in different directions and lose touch.

I try to learn something from each season and from anyone who may enter or leave my life. I am not resentful of anyone and the fact that I am able to say that is a true testament to Jesus and the work he has done in my heart.

Some are old, some are new, all are loved.

Kanye and His Message For America

Kanye and His Message For America

sunset-flag-america-fields.jpgMy opinion, for what its worth.

So everyone is making a big deal about this whole Kanye supporting Trump drama that has unfolded on Twitter the past couple of days. I have to admit that even I have found it quite amusing and maybe even a little exciting! Why? Because it is not about Kanye and its almost not even about Trump. Its about us, as Americans, being able to have our own views, thoughts, and opinions and respecting people and their different views, thoughts and opinions.

We live in a world where it’s not ok to be different. The left has made it clear over and over that anyone who thinks differently than they do is the enemy. They are quick to mob on people who show the slightest deviation from their views and have forced people to retract and apologize for having a thought that offended the mob. They proved it more recently with Shania, and then with Kanye and Chance. This is not ok.  We have to change this whole mentality of, you are the enemy because you don’t think like me and I will bully you until you do. You will get nowhere that way.

I also do not believe that it is as simple as saying Kanye supports Trump so he is a conservative. There are a lot of in betweens in this world we currently live in.  We need open dialog, we need to listen and we need to understand that people view things differently. It’s ok, We can still be friends. We can work together for the good of everyone. I know that despite the chasm between the left and right we can come together.

What is exciting about Kanye’s tweets is his view on freedom of thought. Kanye did not say he agrees with Trump and everything he does, all he said is he loves him. His whole message is love. We live in a world divided. If we want to close the gap, we must put away our differences in opinion and love each other. There has to be more than this insanity we are living everyday. Choose to love!

Valentine’s Day Thoughts

Valentine’s Day Thoughts

I have always loved Valentine’s Day. I think it is such a fun day to celebrate not just romantic love, but just love in general. Being that my love language is gift giving, this is really another day for me to shine! I have had a Valentine’s date with my husband for the past 11 years but I have many friends who despise this day because they do not have a date. I think it’s a great day to love on yourself, and the people who love you!

One of my favorite things to do is make it a special day for my kiddos. We homeschool so that means no fun Valentine’s Day party with cards and candy.  I have made it a tradition to get them a small token of my love each year just to make the day a little brighter. Maybe you don’t have kids, but there is that one coworker, or even a friend that you could surprise with a small token of your affection. On a day intended to spread love, what could warm your heart more than making someone else’s day better!

Happy Valentine’s Day!